How to Deal with Feelings of Guilt
Dealing with Feelings of Guilt
Guilt is a complex emotion, and there is not always a quick fix to overcome it. Everyone is different and each individual has their own unique coping mechanism. However, guilt isn't necessarily a bad thing; it can help you feel empathy towards others or allow you to correct a wrong once made. Therefore in this sense, guilt can be seen as a stimulant for positive change and self-development. Often, mistakes produce a chance for us to learn - gaining valuable insight into ourselves as people.
Guilt, when we don’t allow it to overwhelm us, can be a positive emotion for self-growth and change.
Guilt and shame are both emotions which act as barriers in the path of self-forgiveness. Self-forgiveness is essential to esteem, which is key to the enjoyment of life and relationships. For many, self-forgiveness is difficult to comprehend and can be elusive sometimes for decades or even a lifetime. Therefore, it is important to acknowledge and recognise our mistakes which will then allow us to feel the appropriate remorse and begin on the path of acceptance.
Talk About It
Discussing your feelings openly with a family member, friend or counsellor can really help relieve some of those underlying feelings of guilt. Talking about the situation may be helpful as you will be able to see it from a fresh perspective which could ultimately relieve the guilt you are feeling. It can be extremely draining and distressing living with a constant feeling of guilt, but by discussing your feelings openly you are accepting that you aren't perfect and like everyone else, you have to make tough decisions.
It has been shown through research that the negative feelings created from unresolved guilt is one of the most powerful forces in undermining your self-image and self-esteem. When you deny your guilt it can manifest itself as feelings of anxiety, depression, restlessness or various other psychosomatic problems. Practicing acceptance will help you to recover from negative feelings such as guilt which if unresolved could lead to deeper psychological issues.
Learn from Your Mistakes
Making mistakes is what makes us human and is how we learn, so unending remorse about past mistakes serves no useful purpose. The first steps towards feeling a sense of redemption for a mistake once made could be to make amends. Reflecting upon your past behaviour and taking responsibility for your actions will help you learn from your mistakes.
How Storii can help
Storii can enable carers to engage in meaningful conversation with your loved ones by stimulating past memories. Creating and sharing your memories on Storii allows your loved ones in care to feel actively involved in your life, even if you aren't physically present. Storii can certainly help to alleviate feelings of guilt, as you will always know that you will be that little bit closer to your loved one in care. Of course, nothing can replace a personal visit, but Storii can help your friend or family member in care feel loved and not forgotten.